Can we help?

The following are a sample of some of the areas we can assist with.

Abuse is when the way others treat you becomes harmful to you. Abuse can take many forms, including emotional, Mental, physical or sexual. Therapy can help you address how this has made you feel and work through your feelings, so you feel better about yourself. The abuse may be historic or current.

Adoption and Care leavers
Being adopted or having been in care can directly affect you in many ways. You may:

• feel loss or rejection
• be confused and have split loyalties
• feel disappointed and depressed
• be in turmoil over how you feel

In therapy you can talk through how being adopted or being in care has affected you, understand what you are thinking and explore the issues that you are experiencing.

Anger and Tears
Anger is a normal emotion, but it can become uncontrollable and create problems for you, your family and your personal relationships. Anger can stop you thinking clearly, make you act impulsively, or may make you aggressive and violent towards others.
If you find it difficult to talk about how you feel, you may suppress your anger or turn it inwards. This can lead to problems such as:

• eating disorders
• self-harm
• drugs
• alcohol addiction
Therapy can help you find the cause of your anger and provide ways to control and change your behaviour.

Anxiety is common and can be generalised or after an extreme or distressing experience. You may feel intense apprehension or worry, accompanied by acute physical signs such as:

• sleeplessness
• rapid heartbeat
• palpitations
• dizziness
• irritability

Therapy can help you with anxiety, panic attacks and phobias by giving you ways of dealing with situations as they occur and exploring the cause of your feelings.

It is normal to feel angry, sad, lonely and distressed when a loved one dies or leaves. Even the loss of a pet can have a major psychological effect. There is no time limit on grief although society has an expectation that we should bounce back, if this is not the case for you working through your feelings with a therapist can help you come to find new ways to live with your loss.

Effects of Cancer
If you have cancer, you may feel anxious and stressed about the changes in your body or the effects of your treatment. You may be angry and find it difficult to cope with feelings of loss of control. Even post treatment can evoke feelings of loss and ‘what now’, likened to ‘falling of the end of a conveyor belt’. It can help to talk through these feelings with a therapist, as your friends and family may be too close to the issues to see them clearly.

Career and Life Changes
You may benefit from career / Life counselling when you are thinking about possible career movements, life planning or areas of study. A counsellor can help you set your personal goals and identify any factors likely to influence your decisions or affect your objectives. They will give you confidential guidance and help to ensure you are setting realistic targets for yourself and making positive career/ life choices.

Depression can be a devastating illness that affects your body, mood, behaviour and thoughts. It is not a sign of weakness or failure, and it’s not something that can be changed overnight. Without treatment, symptoms can be present for years, preventing you from functioning to your full ability. Counselling can help find strategies to help with everyday life.

Feeling Sad, Lonely or Isolated
Sometimes simply sitting down with someone who can help you put your feelings into perspective can be beneficial. In counselling, you can explore personal difficulties or feelings of dissatisfaction, and talk openly about aspects of your life, in a way that may not be possible with friends or family. Therapy can help you discover what is important to you, so you can live the kind of life you really want and improve your health and wellbeing.

Foster Carers
Providing care for other people’s children as part of your of your family can be very complex, sometimes due to confidentiality you can’t turn to the people who normally offer you support and guidance. Counselling can help foster families proactively manage stress and avoid burn out, help overcome emotional issues and help with the loss felt when a child moves on.

Health related issues & Illness
Therapy can help anyone who is generally worried about their health, or who needs help in coming to terms with being diagnosed with illness. Working through feelings such as ‘why me?’ can be beneficial to your quality of life.

Life Skills & Life Changes
Therapy can help you identify the skills and capabilities that you have and use them to the best of your ability. It can make you better able to change things to:

• make your life run better
• realise ambitions
• fulfil your potential
• be happier and more confident
• be more successful
• be less stressed
• become more peaceful, sociable or fun

Loss is not just about death; you could also lose a relationship, a job or your health. Losing someone or something you love is very painful and you may experience many difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger, grief and guilt. Therapy can help and support you through this difficult period of your life.

Relationship counselling can help improve the way you relate to those around you and allow you to break free from old patterns of behaviour. This can uncover unhelpful repeating patterns of behaviour that pass from one relationship to another. This can cover all relationships, including partnerships, friends and families. We do not offer couples counselling.

Self-esteem and Self-Confidence
If you have low self-esteem, you may view life in a negative way which makes things seem hopeless or pointless. You might think you are worthless, and that other people are better than you. You may have difficulty saying what you really feel, or you may lack the confidence to be assertive. As a result, you may feel that people take advantage of you and treat you badly. Therapy can help you explore the way you feel and change your view of yourself and others.

Stress can be a positive thing and help you achieve your goals. But too much stress can put your health at risk and lead to physical, mental and emotional problems. Therapy could help you to manage your life differently or support you in developing coping strategies.

Suicidal feelings
Many kinds of emotional pain can lead to thoughts of suicide. You may reach a point at which you feel you can no longer cope. You may not truly wish to die, but you may need help at that moment. Therapy could help by allowing you to share your thoughts and feelings and work on ways to transform negative thoughts into more positive ones.

Emotional and psychological trauma can be the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, and make you feel helpless and vulnerable in a dangerous world. Trauma can be caused by a one-off event, such as a bad accident, a natural disaster or a violent attack. Or it can result from ongoing, relentless stress, such as living in a crime-ridden neighbourhood or struggling with major health issues. Talking to a therapist could help you.